The New Codependency
Codependency used to be a word that described a cluster of behaviors found in people who were in relationship with alcoholics. However, the new definition is not isolated to an “addict scenario”, and refers to tools for letting go, detachment, setting boundaries, and making friends with the idea and practice of self-care. This book is for the people pleasers, the controllers, the “focus-on-everyone-but-me’ers”, and those who want healthy relationships but aren’t sure how to create one, or be in one. I cannot recommend this book enough.
The Road Less Travelled
What I love about this book is the down-to-earth, direct conversations about the necessity of suffering, and how understanding that life is not fair is the key to finding our peace. M. Scott Peck speaks directly about our responsibility to grow emotionally/mentally, and how self worth is created. He introduces the tools to deep discipline including delaying gratification and others that encourage a grounded look at driving your personal growth journey with maturity, awareness and discipline (in the Buddha sense). He explores the places we have human troubles (in work, love, power and others), and provides pointing which demands emotional responsibility and growth. There is also an updated version of this book that makes some of his concepts more “contemporary”.
What Happened to You
Maybe you think that your childhood has nothing to do with who you are now, or the choices you make, but that is not true. Our early experiences form us, and continue to influence us, until we decide to look at them and take charge. We can claim things we need to keep, and release things that no longer serve us if we dare to do the work. This insightful book also has an audiobook (it is kinda nice to be read to sometimes), and also a separate workbook. If this book makes your stomach clench, it probably a good one to start with.
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
Teenage girls are complicated. There’s a lot going on inside them, and outside them. Knowing what to do as a parent can be complcated, and this book intends to make it a little easier.
Untamed
Where do women hold back to be accepted, not rock the boat, or be nice? Where/why do women ignore their intuition and true selves. This book is about reclaiming power and resiliency.
Permission To Feel
Becoming aware of your feelings and how they influence your actions is an important human superpower. When we suppress our feelings, they change our behavior and thoughts anyway, so gaining Emotional Intelligence is the key to unlocking your emotions, and having them be part of your success formula in your life, relationships and work.
Atomic Habits
Pitter patter, let’s get at ‘er!
If you would like to build powerful habits and release habits that don’t serve you, here’s the book for you. Reading this book is the first step and then getting into DOING and discipline is the second part. First we KNOW better, then we DO better. Let’s do it (and no, it does not have to be a laborious chore)!
The Teenage Brain
Have you ever found yourself saying to your teen, “what is going on in that head of yours?!” If so, this book may be for you. The teenage brain is an interesting landscape, and during the teenage years the brain undergoes significant shifts, that impact thoughts and behavior. This book will give some insight into your teen’s brain, which may help you communicate more effectively, not take their behavior personally, and interact differently during disagreements.
In Sheep’s Clothing
This book provides information and strategies about how to understand and deal with manipulative people. It answers the question of “why do they always seem to find ME”, and helps you install the necessary esteem, insight and boundaries to help you find your way.
Non-Violent Communication
Have you ever found yourself saying to your teen, “what is going on in that head of yours?!” If so, this book may be for you. The teenage brain is an interesting landscape, and during the teenage years the brain undergoes significant shifts, that impact thoughts and behavior. This book will give some insight into your teen’s brain, which may help you communicate more effectively, not take their behavior personally, and interact differently during disagreements.
Love Warrior
This book is a deeply personal account of hitting relationship rock bottom, and finding a way back up. Glennon found her way back up not through her husband, but through her relationship with herself. Truth, vulnerability and emotional agility were all needed here. Maybe you will find yourself in these pages.
Daring Greatly
The supplementary title for this book by Brene Brown reads: “how the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead”. Those of you who know me, coach with me, or have coached with me may recognize this theme. Our ability to realign our relationship with, and definition of “vulnerability” (it is not synonymous with weakness), is essential, transformative and freeing. Yep, it is also really uncomfortable and unfamiliar.
Since I am at the risk of just quoting the whole book in this short description, I will hold back and say this: If being a human came with an instruction/insight manual, I believe it should be this book. There are important and digestible revelations that are applicable to both men and women. I really can’t articulate the impact and importance of the concepts and human experiences contained in Brene’s latest work. And to steal a page out of Brene’s book–“if you think these concepts do not apply to you, read on”, get the book and read on–
Pssst…no really, please do it.
Brainstorm-The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain
If your kid is between the ages of 12-24, this book may be for you! Young people are not “immature”, they are growing and learning. This book helps parents find tools to perceive and communicate in ways that create positive connection during these years. You don’t just have to hold your breath and wait it out.
The Yamas and Niyamas
Ok, this one was a total shocker! A friend of mine showed me this book and told me she was enraptured with it, and was chewing on the practices and framework in it. I picked up this book, opened it to a random page—and it hooked me!! This is a book that explores yoga’s ethical practices. It isn’t teaching you how to pose your body, but rather how to work with the mind (spiritual) practices of restraints and observances. “What matters is how well you have participated in your own life, both the ordinary routines and the extraordinary surprises” How do we gain mastery over our own choices while being battered around by the human experience? Start the journey toward mastery of self: pick up the book and see.
Radical Forgiveness
Do the same harsh interactions repeat themselves inside your head and with others? Do you hold onto things and not let them go? Do they fester inside you quietly, while still, there is a trigger, and anger or apathy are familiar “friends”? Forgiveness of self and other, is some of the most powerful work you could ever do–and it frees you. If you let it.
The Self-Centered Marriage: Rebuilding Your “We” by Reclaiming Your “I”
In partnership, it is easy to lose ourselves, and in some cases we get into partnership without really knowing ourselves. So when we wake up one day wondering “why am I here with you?” it is almost inevitable. For those of you who know me, I use a term “centered-on-self”. This means being connected to you–your thoughts, needs drives and emotions. When everything you do is rooted inside you, your expression in this world is honest and real. You make sense to you, and you make sense to others. You can meet your partner for who they are, while you are being who you really are. Realign your marriage by finding out who you are as individuals, and connecting there first. Find you-Find each other. No kidding. Marriage realignment is a normal part of long term relationship. Dig in.
Intimate Communion
David Deida speaks about the wonder of masculine and feminine energy polarities and what can happen when we become “shelled” and unable to access our essence in relationship. Deida writes in an intentionally provocative way to bring strong attention to the currents that flow through you (man or woman). As he states in the book “If you are not delighted by (and I insert or intrugued by) a style of intimacy involving deep passion, deep devotion and deep understanding-all three-this book is not for you” So, is it for you? Reach beyond the neutered relationships of 50/50 fairness, and taste a new balance and deeper intimacy (which he calls open-hearted surrender).
I’ll tell you one damn thing, and that’s all I know!
Alright, I happen to think that Jann Arden is hilarious! She is a Canadian singer, songwriter, author and performer. This book contains journal entries from May 15, 2002-February 22, 2004. They are sweet, sad, funny, thought provoking, and at times deeply personal. When I write (or draw) in my journal, I assume no one else will see it. I think she did too. Sometimes the work we do for ourselves, serves others too.
The Gifts of Imperfection
As the author says in her preface “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process, is the bravest thing we will ever do.” What gets in the way of YOUR wholehearted living? “Gifts” guides you to cultivate authenticity, self-compassion, resiliency, gratitude, trust, creativity, play, calm, meaningful work, and laughter (and more). This book is a kind, impactful, and useful read. It is a skinny volume (126 pages), that is jam packed. Let go of who you think you are supposed to be, and embrace who you are.
This Time I Dance
There is so much to love about this book! Tama is an engaging writer with a wonderful message, and if you take out the word “work” and replace it with “life”, her journey is inspiring no matter what change process you are up to. She speaks from her heart, and with spirit, addresses the feelings behind the process of change, growth and aspiration. Personally, I have read this book many times, and get different things out of it each time.
The Invitation
Another soulful read. Oriah speaks in a deep meaningful way about yearning, and the “being” behind making life shifts. The poem “The Invitation” encapsulates the wanting behind deepening your knowing of yourself and others. This book invites you on a journey of the highs and lows of true intimacy with yourself, others and the world, for the sake of having a fully expressed life. This is the heart map to living beyond, and allowing yourself to taste it all without minimizing it.
The Untethered Soul
Dive into this one, the water is beautiful! This book contains a deep message with many layers. It seems to be made for reading and rereading. Freeing yourself from what holds you back, are simple words and a complex process. This book contains a soul/spirit context and salve for the heart that is questing.
Unf**k Yourself
This is a straight talking, no nonsense guide getting getting out of your own way. This book helps you get back in the drivers seat of your own life. If life is getting you down, Unf**k yourself.
