It is not easy, I will not kid you. You have to put the work in, and have faith
It is not easy. I will not kid you. You have to put the work in, and have faith. The first few talks we had, I felt better, but thought, “is this what it is? Nothing is changing”. I was a bit discouraged, but then a strange thing happened over time: we addressed what I felt needed attention and direction, and low and behold things started to change but not in any way I expected. I was being me, the real whole me–something quite frankly, I am not sure I ever really was. It was exciting, sometimes scary. I compare my experience to popcorn, you have to slowly heat the kernels (heat yourself up to the possibility), stir constantly as not to burn (keep working, exploring and listening), then once you are heated enough and stirred around you start to pop (learn about yourself, love yourself) slow at first and then a bunch of explosions (realize that there are endless possibilities in life and you are the only thing standing in your way, that once you start this acceptance and realization it expands into all, and I mean all, facets of your life). I am now in a place where I am not scared that my boys will be men and leave our home to seek their own, I have an amazing life/work balance and I love my boys and we have the most amazing relationship and it is only getting better.